It’s not very hard to use a strap-on dildo, but there are a few important things to keep in mind.
Lube: Lube should be your first stop with almost any sex toy, but strap-on dildos are especially important because they don’t lube themselves up. It’s not as important with vaginal penetration because vaginas do create their own lube. However, it’s essential for anal penetration and it can make vaginal penetration even easier.
Condoms: You don’t need condoms to use sex toys, especially if you’re only using them with one partner. However, they can be useful for cleanup. A condom can be stripped off and thrown away after sex, negating the necessity for general toy cleaning. If you’re going to use a condom in lieu of cleaning, however, make sure it covers the entire insertable length.
Imagination: Don’t be afraid to use your imagination. There are plenty of ways you can have sex without sex toys, and the same is true with sex toys. Try existing positions, make up new ones, or introduce additional sex toys into the bedroom alongside your strap-on dildo.
Maintaining Your Strap-On: To make sure your strap-on lasts as long as possible, make sure you’re properly caring for both the harness and the dildos you’re putting inside.
Cleaning the Dildo: Clean strap-on dildos the same way you do any other dildos. Wash them using warm water and mild soap or a good toy cleaner. If you have more than one partner, it’s a good idea not to share sex toys between them. Even if you clean them well, there’s still the possibility that you could share bacteria, which can be harmful even if it doesn’t spread STIs.
Cleaning the Harness: Different harnesses require different methods of cleaning. Some, especially ones that are just made of fabric, can be tossed in the washing machine. Just put it in a lingerie bag to ensure that the straps don’t get tangled with other clothes and air-dry it rather than putting it in the dryer. Others shouldn’t go in the washing machine, and can instead be gently washed in the sink.